I myself having been with my girlfriend for five years would not think of such a thing, although people make their own choices and I respect that whatever they may be.
At the same time, PERPLEXED if someone tried to push their own MORALS OR BELIEFS onto me I would be the first to give them an earful
People can make their own decisions...

MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS

I think it is up to the couples involved, my wife and I (21 & 23) have regular threesomes and group sex, I love watch her having sex and filming it, we are not hurting anyone so who cares?.

Moose

My delema..
I am a married bisexual women, who is Sexually frustrated! I think about all sorts of sexual acts, and I even get off on the thought of watching my husband have passionate sex with another woman. But unfortunately I can't get past the fear of the consequences if it actually happened. I would love to be able to get over my hang ups and trust my husband enough to be able to fulfill many of my fantasy's. I even worry when I tell him some of my thoughts he might get the idea that its ok to have an affair. I sound pretty pathetic I think, here I am with a wild imgaination and desire and too hang ups to let me out!
I can see both sides I guess, everyone should do what they feel comfortable with as long as they don't hurt anyone else in the process.

Think but can't act

Dear Roy,

This whole business about not imposing one's morals upon others is not reality. The reality is that people are always influencing others.

So why is it that a hedonist spreading their view is completely acceptable, yet a manogomist spreading their view is called imposing morals on others. This is hypocrisy.

perplexed

I must agree with the article. It seems every time I go out with my gf in Melbourne, I end up stumbling accross some time of sex party or "orgy".
The way I see it, whether you are gay or straight, everyone can have alot of fun at these events.
Sometimes, I even bring these ideas to work with me and try them out on my collegues, which impresses them somewhat. Now they're keen to join me.

Bring on more parties I say

Djamel Cee

Not trying to enforce my 'views' to anyone but I am glad that I have my wife and I plan to only stay with my wife. With that in mind, I am confident I will be free of any diseases, and any social regret should anything out of the ordinary that might happen.

One partner only and happy with that

Kak bloke

You kidder. You "made love" to a woman - who was having sex with another guy. And you didn't see her face.

We better ask you what is your definition of "love". If "love at first sight" for you is with a woman turned away from you, already having sex with another guy - it means your first sight is real real bad.

So bad it may not have even been your mate's mum. Could have been the dad.

Nick the Greek

From the Book of Melbourne, chapter 12:

21. The LORD looked down upon Sodom, and saw the Great Evil that was there. And the LORD spake, saying, 'I told you to do unto others as you would have them do unto you, but *that* is not what I had in mind!' And the LORD did smite the sinners mightily, and frogs did rain down upon Ringwood, and a plague of asps afflicted Mount Martha.

22. And woe was on the faces of the innocent there; for though they were sorely tried by the LORD's mighty wrath, the sodomites and catamites and adulterers and fornicators did continue their foul deeds, so busy were they. And the frogs and asps were made use of, yea verily, in an unnatural manner.

23. And a visitor from Sydney was heard to say, 'Mount Martha? Hey, yeah!'

Reverend Dr Phil

Thom, I would argue that those who "swing" are not in a monogamous relationship anyhow. So "divorce" for a swinger is entirely relative to their understanding of what they consider "marriage" ie a union of two persons to the exclusion of all others voluntarily entered into for life (Australian Marriage Act and most Christian churches definition), or a temprory union of two people with interuptions by mutual consent of two other couples??? Most monogomous relationships would class any sexual violation of the relationship by third parties as a breaksown of "marriage" and firm grounds for "divorce". This would lead naturally to a higher "divorce" rate statistic, assuming divorce was for or the result of a realtionship with a third party. If sexual relationships with a third party are acceptable then you would have to redefine "marriage" before you could compare divorce rates. In short--you need to compare apples with apples. It would be more valid and interesting to see if "Cheating" on your partner in a monogomous relationship, and "cheating" on your partner in a swinging relationship leads in both cases to a similar divorce rate.
Cheers

Paul C

Aren't we missing the point here?
These parties are only for physically attractive people- ugly people not allowed.

As an ugly person myself I can tell you the real barrier here is physical unattractiveness - this is the one attribute that will never be accepted. Its all very well talking about "breaking down the barriers" and loosening people inhibitions when the final, most revolting taboo of all - being ugly, will never be explored or explained, let alone accepted.

Too all you "liberated" people out there, go on, admit the truth. You hate ugly people.

David Beattie

Plissken,

when we leave the kids, we do what most parents do - sleep! That most coveted of all human pleasures!
If we're lucky, we might even have a frolic in the garden... but who's got time these days to do some weeding?

Larry Flynt

This is a classic example of one lot telling the other how to live their lives. Who cares, as long as people realise their is a cause and effec, and happy to live with the consequences, why should anyone tell others how to live their lives??!!

This might sound simple minded but you cannot impose morals (figment of ones imagination based on upbringing) on others.

If it doesn't turn you on or tried and have not worked for you don't do it... but those who enjoy it go for it I say!!

Roy Edward

I do not agree at all with the statement ..."Monogamy is something that nobody really wants, deep down inside"

Can you really believe this? Seioursly... for all aspects of your marriage, not just Sexual fulfilment?

I think that when you look at the top 5 needs for both Men & Women, you will find things like..
Affection, Financial Support, Recreational Companionship, Conversation, Sexual Fulfilment, Family Commitment, Admiration & Respect, An Attractive Spouse, Honesty & Openness, & Domestic Support...

You can't be having sex every minute of the day... what about all these other important needs? I think that they can't be properly fulfilled without a monogomous mariage, anything else will work to destroy these other (more important) needs not help them.

Seriously... if all you have is this wonderful sexual life, & you are overly focused on sexual fulfillment... what does that say for the rest of your life?

David Martin

Sounds more like an animal behaviour.. fun without commitment, eat and sleep.

Human

Plissken, the parties are referred to in the article aren't held in the homes of swingers, they are held at a specific location.

if it's not for you, gold star, but don't assume you know how others handle their own personal swinging situations.

D French